Thirteenth-century Romans celebrated the holiday known as Valentine’s Day by literally hitting each other with animal skin carcasses. During this "celebration," an animal was sacrificed and women who wanted to be "blessed" with fertility were hit by the carcass. These days, Valentine’s Day is a lot simpler, with lovers reveling in cards, candy, flowers, romantic dinners and...couples’ strip club nights?
According to sex counselor Sari Cooper, for couples who hit up strip clubs together, it can be a very positive experience. Some clubs have even added couples-only features to their menu of services, as well as private, couples-only rooms.
"Here’s the thing, as long as a role play or fantasy or sex adventure is a fully consensual experience and one partner isn’t feeling emotionally coerced or threatened, it can be really fun," said Cooper on BravoTV.com. "Some people have fantasies and they just want to talk about or think about it...then, there are people who like to act them out."
One of the perks of being a couple means the opportunity to explore sexuality in a safe space. Typically, strip clubs aren’t places where you find couples getting to know one another. But, we live in an age where hardcore adult content can be accessed with a swipe. So, the strip club in comparison is a relatively tame move.
"Because it’s a professional experience and there are boundaries associated with it, the couple can say ’this person doesn’t have anything to do with our lives outside these four walls,’" said Cooper. "If you trust one another to say we’re going to keep this agreement and trust in a non-monogamous activity, it can be wonderful adding a new adventure to your coupledom. The foundation to any sort of healthy sex life is trust."
Here are some of the benefits...
1. Instant threesome—it’s a chance to improve your sex life with the presence of a third person. Even if the third person is only a lingering memory in bed later, you still have the experience and your imagination.
2. Instant foreplay—you are watching beautiful, naked dancing women—together. Naked. Beautiful. Women. Together.
3. Great food—okay, not every club is ideal for a cozy meal together, but you must take advantage of the fact that we have a ton of clubs in the Pacific Northwest. And, more than ten of those clubs have caught the eye of Bon Appetite magazine. If you are in the mood for steak, noodles, prime rib or Mexican—there’s a club with a good menu for whatever is on your palate.
4. The taboo factors—for some reason, nothing seems to spice up the mundane as much as something forbidden. While strippers and sex work continue to push towards mainstream acceptance, it is still seen as something beyond the pale.
5. Freeing your inhibitions—the general atmosphere of most strip clubs is all about fantasy. Lighting, music, alcohol and scantily clad, lovely ladies are all elements of that fantasy. Date night at the strip club can be a way to free routine inhibitions that you just can’t do at the movies.
6. Breaking out of your routine—familiarity often breeds contempt and strip clubs are far from mundane. One memorable date night at the club could keep your relationship coasting on good vibes for months.
7. You might be inspired—whether it’s a by a dance move, sexy attire or the shape of someone’s legs or ass, the experience can motivate you for the better. Being a stripper isn’t just about physical attributes. It involves physical prowess, endurance and enough self-confidence to work a stage and deal with the public—it’s hard not to be inspired!
If you do decide to make the club a couples’ thing, be prepared with lots of cash for the dancers, always be respectful and have fun!
